Breakups are hard, but telling people about a breakup can be even harder.
Before you tell people about your breakup, it’s important to take as much time as you need to process how you’re feeling.
Be mindful of who you share the details of your breakup with, and for those you feel uncomfortable confiding in, come up with a general statement that’s cautious and discrete.
If there’s anything worse than experiencing a breakup, it’s having to talk about it. At first, you might keep the reasons behind your decision to part ways private. Eventually, however, — be it through a change in relationship status on Facebook or word of mouth — family and friends are bound to find out about your recent split.
But just because your friends come bearing pints of ice cream and boxes of tissues, ready to discuss such current events, doesn’t mean you have to be.
Dr. LeslieBeth Wish, a licensed clinical psychotherapist, relationship expert, and author of the new book “Training Your Love Intuition” told INSIDER that when you first break up, your emotional needs come first. In other words, allow yourself time to process and understand how you’re feeling, why you feel it, and then, when you’re able to approach the subject without bursting into tears, or experiencing fits of anger, you can talk about the breakup calmly and rationally, Wish explained.
Figuring out the best way to talk about a breakup starts by getting to know your audience
If you think you’d benefit from a little comfort and support in that moment, you’re entitled to that, certified dating and relationship coach, and the founder of LoveQuestCoaching.com, Lisa Concepcion said. However, just be mindful of who you confide in off the bat.
“While it’s good to seek out support be mindful of who you tell,” Concepcion told INSIDER. “That’s as important as when. Allow yourself a month. Have one trusted person for support. Then trust your gut.”
Remember that your co-workers, not to mention a decent handful of social media followers, probably aren’t as familiar with the ins and outs of your relationship the way best friends and family members are. On one hand, this can be a plus as those closest to you know your situation because they’ve likely experienced the lows and highs with you. Then again, because these people are so on-target, there’s always a chance they’ll play the “I told you so” …read more
Source:: Business Insider